Have you ever thrown a stone into a tranquil lake and observed the ripples it creates? I am sure many of us have done that. Worrying creates ripples of anxiety and tension in our minds. The mind likes to anchor itself to the known and predictable. Since it is unable to envisage the future, it sets sail in the ocean of worries often having to deal with rough weather in the form of negative energies.
“Worrying is a total waste of time. It doesn’t change anything. All it does is steal your joy and keep you very busy doing nothing. “
Worrying or getting tense was something that used to come so easily to me that it almost became second nature to me. Being the perfectionist that I am, I would endlessly think about the outcome of a particular issue and start my worrying timer with “what if”? The list of questions that followed this simple “what if” was never ending. My sister always teased me” Like a rat which digs out the mud to make a hole for itself, you keep digging out issues to worry about!”
I knew this was definitely not a good trait, and I had to do something about it.
Luckily for me, my husband has a very practical and pleasant demeanour. He does not believe in making friendship with “Mr. Worries”! His constant counselling and support helped me a great deal in breaking my long and passionate affair with worrying. I now feel more positive and relaxed.
Some pointers which help to let go the worry syndrome:
- Surround yourself with positive people
- Meditate
- Address the problem
- Learn to let go
Doesn’t this flow chart below explain it so beautifully?
I have stopped worrying about many issues and challenges that come up in everyday life and have learnt to cross the bridge when I reach there. If there is something to be done……I do it, if it is beyond my limits just leave it at “His “feet!!
Being romantic at heart, I have now gotten into a new affair with happiness now, but my husband doesn’t mind it at all 😉 In the meanwhile let’s sing the beautiful song Hakuna Matata – Means no worry!!
Amazing Post Radhika Mam!
Much needed 🙂
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Thanks Aanchal. 🙂
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Your blog seems to be written for me.चिंता चिता के समान है।we all know it but we creat a imaginary world of unhappened negetive things in advance .we are lucky to have a caring hubby always there to borrow our worries and make us relaxed.😍
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Very well said Snehalata. Being amidst people with an optimistic and positive outlook towards life is a big blessing. It helps us emerge out of our negatives and learn to embrace the more positive qualities:)
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A very positive message! What I like about this article is, you have narrated your personal triumph over worries which can inspire others to follow a positive lifestyle. Best wishes, always.
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Thank you so much Amitav! I’ll be really happy if it inspires other readers too. Learning to overcome my nature of worrying has definitely helped me develop a more positive frame of mind towards all challenges in everyday life.😊
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Thanks for this post, Radhika. I really need to overcome my worrying or over thinking problems.
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At times we all sail in the worrying boat. But it is imperative that we don’t make it a habit.
Thanks Shreya. Hope you are able to overcome the habit!
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Yes. 🙂
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I love reading posts that spread positive vibes and this is one of a kind. 🙂
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Thank you 😊😊
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😍😍😍
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😊😊
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Very nicely written, Radhika. Loved reading it. So glad you have given up the affair with worries and made happiness your new buddy. Good going 👍
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Thanks so much Deepika. Life suddenly becomes more relaxed when we let go our worries😊
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Really sorry I was busy with college gathering Radhika Di …wishing you a happy and prosperous New year 2017 ….working for my project during late night …Inn tense situations our mind needs to be calm and still like deep water absorbing the disturbances on the surface …it’s so nice that you learnt not to worry.
As you rightly said worrying is simply waste of time whatever may be outcome of tense situations …so hakuna matata 😃
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Good to see you back Kiran. A very happy new year to you too! Being aware of our short comings and working towards overcoming them is true learning. Thanks so much Kiran 😊💙
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Ohh that’s so nice of you for throwing more light on it dear Radhika Di 😊…I always learn something new from you like my parents
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😇😇❤
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Worrying is like initiating a vicious circle of negativity. Glad you got out of it dear. There’s another song am being reminded of while reading you post- “Que Sera Sera- whatever will be-will be” 😊 Keep smiling and continue your affair with happiness.
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Yes, Nivedita! A beautiful song indeed and so true! Thank you so much. I am really enjoying this affair with happiness 😉
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Its a Swahili Phrase and beautiful!
Good post!
No worries!
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Thanks Aneesh 👍
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Wow, Radhika, what an amazing post!! Hakuna Matata! Gotta love Timon and Pumbaa, I love that song 😀 I’m like you, I worry a lot as well. For the most trivial of things as well as things that are definitely out of my control 😀 But it just makes us do nothing and mope around, which is not good. And can result in headaches that we’re better off not having 😀 So let’s be happy, keep smiling and sing Hakuna Matata 😉
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Glad that you could relate to my post Deepika. Though I was aware of all it’s negative side effects, I was never able to come out of it for so long. Only a conscious effort and good counseling helped me to a great extent. Do try to come out of your worrying mode Deepika. All the very best😊
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Loved that phrase(Hakuna Matata ), since the time it was made as a song for the movie, “The Lion King”
Surrounding with positive people will make it to the most. Nice post.. 🙂
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Yes, it was through that movie I first heard the song, and it stayed with me since. Thanks Prakash 😊
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Good that you were able to get rid of this… My mom is exactly like that, worries a lot for even the smallest thing… Growing up seeing her for everything, and realising it’s futility, I try not to worry much… But to be honest, it’s not easy!! And that pic was too good!
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I am glad that you realised it’s futility early in life. Don’t ever befriend it!! Thanks so much for sharing your views 😊
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What a welcome article for 2017 Radhika. I’m going to share it with my daughter. Being a very positive person I worry less but my daughter and husband keeps on worrying for nothing. At times it is very difficult to calm them down. I hope this reading will help them both! Thanks a lot for sharing 😃💖
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Thanks a ton Meenakshi. Your poems always reflect your positive attitude. I sincerely hope that this article inspires them to think about it. Good day to you dear💙💙
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Good day Radhika! I hope so too 🙂
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True ! It’s our probelm free ….philosophy …..hakuna matata ! Love the song and the idea !
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Thanks Pri😊
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Much needed for me.alot of motivation.thnku.
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I am so glad to hear that Nimesh!
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Yes Ma’am!!!!!!!we always worried but it’s not solution. The way you shared your thoughts about it, really appreciative.
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Thank you so much 🙂
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Let us cut that friendship with mr.worries… Good morning radhi…your new looks👍
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GM Akhila. A good thought to break the friendship with Mr. Worries. Thanks so much😊
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Amazing post!! Positivity is over flooded in you. You are just amazing Radhika! Hakuna Matata!
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Thanks a million for those kind words Sumith 😊
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I keep telling myself that it’s no point worrying about things that aren;t in my control. But, the stubborn mind fails to listen. I will treat your post as a reminder…thank you Radhika:-)
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Oh yes Divya. The mind is fiercely stubborn. I write all such reminders and quotes, put it up on the soft board and keep reading and reinforcing the same. It helps a great extent!!
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Hakuna Matata! That is a super way to address worrisome woes. Loved your sister’s example too. We often let the problem take over our life and us eventually yielding no fruits other than some more worries. So glad you had your husband to eventually made you look into the same issues with just a different perspective.
Hakuna Matata, once again! 🙂
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Thanks dear Pranitha! I am so glad that my husband patiently saw me through the futility in worrying silly over everyday problems! I am ever grateful to him for that 😊
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You have taken all our worries after sharing this wonderful post! Honestly, I don’t take any worries as always what have to happen it will so we can’t help it except the way we handle that suitation. So,an amazing post!❤❤❤❤
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It’s what has* to happen
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It’s great that you don’t allow worries to take control of your life. Follow that in the future as well 👍
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