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Life lessons from Mom

Today on my mother’s birthday, would love to dedicate this post to her. Happy birthday Mom ❤ !

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In the summer of 1970, wedding bells rang in the sacred temple town of Tirupathi. The bride a tall, slim, beautiful, demure young girl and the groom a dashing smart and handsome officer in the Indian Airforce. A perfect couple, made for each other.

After the fanfare and all the wedding ceremonies were over, the bride who came from a small place called Udupi in the south kanara district of Karnataka was to accompany her husband all the way to her new home in New Delhi. After bidding farewell to her family she set out with her newlywed husband carrying a kaleidoscope of emotions within her.

This young and beautiful couple my dear friends are my parents.

After helping my mom settle down in the new place my dad resumed duty. Soon they were invited to a very formal dinner party. My mom who hailed from a small town never had an exposure to any formal event. But being the person she is, she agreed to accompany my dad for the same. The dinner was a five course meal served by an array of waiters. An assortment of cutlery was set on the table with so many different sizes of spoons and fork, each to be used for a specific course. She sailed through the entire evening with élan, with many officers complimenting my dad to have found such a beautiful bride. On their return my dad questioned her if she was used to eating with a knife and fork? To which she replied that it was the first time she was using it. She simply observed how the others used it and followed them! Simple, isn’t it?

The best way to learn something is by doing it.

My mother had a lot of free time at her disposal. Not knowing what to do she decided to join some class.  My father did not consent to that as she did not know Hindi. Arguing that she would never learn the language if she did not step out, she slowly ventured out to neighbours houses in the locality. Gradually she made friends and learnt not only to speak fluent Hindi but also knitting, baking and north Indian style of cooking.

Courage is not the absence of fear, but overcoming it.

Being in the Airforce, my dad had to go for flying sometimes for days together. Once he left saying he would be gone for 3 days but came back after 28 days!!! I wonder how my mother spent those agonising days with no news about his return. Our house was at the far end of the Airforce quarters beyond which was a huge empty playground.  It had glass door with no grills. Chilli powder and kitchen knife were her companions during dads absence. Remember there were no mobiles or phones at home then!!

Do everything to the best of your ability.

Frequent postings are a part and parcel of an Airforce Officer’s life. Unlike today they did not have the luxury of availing the services of packers and movers. Mom with her magical hands did all the packing for every single posting, and not once did a single glass break during the innumerable transits.

Believe in yourself.

Owing to dad’s frequent postings, he decided to admit us to Central School ( Kendriya Vidyalaya). They were very particular about a certain number of transfers before obliging with the admission to the officer’s wards. At one such time we were denied admission for the same reason. Again it was mom who went to the Principal and argued out with him and ensured that we were admitted.

Keep calm and trust GOD.

She was a strict disciplinarian but also showered us with lots of love. She managed the house very beautifully during dad’s absence and lent him all the support during challenging times!  During our summer vacations she would play with us like a kid. She helped us with the lessons, Math being her favourite subject! An excellent cook, she managed the house on a stringent budget without allowing us to feel the pinch. She always taught us not to get worried about situations beyond our control and to leave your problems at “HIS” feet and he would take care of it.

Life is about creating yourself.

Today she is 70+ . Even then there is that twinkle and spark in her eyes. My salutations and regards to you dear Mom. Thank you for being there for us ALWAYS!! Love you Mom!!

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101 comments on “Life lessons from Mom

  1. in
    October 1, 2017

    What great tips from your Mom. Your parents’ wedding was beautifully described.

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  2. Mrs. Vachaal
    October 1, 2017

    आपने बहुत प्यारी पोस्ट अपनी माँ के लिये लिखा है..
    आपकी माँ को मेरी तरफ से भी जन्म दिन की ढेर सारी शुभकामनायें ..
    भगवान उन्हें हमेशा खुश और स्वस्थ रखे..

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  3. Nisha Sharma
    October 1, 2017

    Amazing and a heart touching post.. Mother’s are always special and really happy to read this post of yours.. Good wishes Radhika ma’am.!

    Liked by 3 people

    • radhikasreflection
      October 1, 2017

      You are right Nisha. Mothers are always special and close to the heart. Thanks for your good wishes dear. Have a great Sunday 🙂

      Liked by 1 person

  4. Madhusudan
    October 1, 2017

    Bahut hi badhiya post apni Maa ke janm din par likhaa apne…..mere taraf se Maa ko janm din ki bahut bahut shubhkaamnaayen..🙏🙏🙏

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    • radhikasreflection
      October 1, 2017

      Anek dhanyawad Madhusudan 🙏🙂

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      • Madhusudan
        October 1, 2017

        स्वागत आपका—–
        कौन है जो माँ का स्थान ले ले,
        कौन है जो माँ जैसा प्यार दे दे,
        समझती है जो बिन कहे दर्द सारे,
        ख्वाहिश करे पूर्ण कहे बिन हमारे,
        हम क्या जो उनको सम्मान दे दे,
        कौन है जो माँ जैसा प्यार दे दे।

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      • radhikasreflection
        October 1, 2017

        Bilkul sahi kaha aapne. Maa jaisa dujha koi nahi. Aapki is pyaar bhari rachna ko salaam , Madhusudan🙏

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      • Madhusudan
        October 1, 2017

        Sukriya apka…🙏🙏🙏

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  5. arlene
    October 1, 2017

    Happy birthday to your mom Radhika. What a lovely tribute.

    Liked by 3 people

  6. Mehul Singla
    October 1, 2017

    Happy birthday to your mom😊 I wish that she stays healthy always and keep giving us these lovely messages😇😇

    Liked by 3 people

  7. Anshu Agarwal
    October 1, 2017

    A very happy birthday to your mumma…lovely post..loved it ☺

    Liked by 4 people

  8. Sangbad
    October 1, 2017

    Happy birthday to Aunt…this post seems like am on a journey…

    Liked by 2 people

  9. Anindya
    October 1, 2017

    Beautifully written about the most important friends of our lives….our parents….wishing your Mother a very happy birthday….nicely written and compiled post Radhika…

    Liked by 2 people

    • radhikasreflection
      October 1, 2017

      The parent child relationship is truly full of love and I am blessed to have such affectionate parents. Thanks a lot Anindya for your wishes 😇

      Liked by 1 person

  10. Mr.Nikhil Raj
    October 1, 2017

    THE WHOLE STORY IS DESCRIBED BEAUTIFULLY AND ELEGANTLY IN THESE ABOVE LINES…..,……… GLAD TOO READ SUCH BLOG

    Liked by 2 people

  11. miss_ananya
    October 1, 2017

    Happy Birthday to your mom, even though I don’t know her but after reading your post I have huge respect for her already. Lots of love to you and her for being an inspiration! ❤

    Liked by 3 people

    • radhikasreflection
      October 1, 2017

      Many many thanks Ananya. We siblings have always been blessed to have her unconditional love and support through out. Just wanted to show my love and gratitude for her through this post. 💖

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  12. swalia
    October 1, 2017

    Beautiful life lessons. Wishing your mom a very happy birthday…May God bless her with good health and happiness!

    Liked by 3 people

  13. Orange
    October 1, 2017

    This is such an extraordinary post! I really enjoyed reading it, there was so much to learn. I really appreciate the simplicity and strength that your mom has 🙂

    ಜನ್ಮದಿನದ ಶುಭಾಶಯಗಳು to your mom 😁💙

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    • radhikasreflection
      October 1, 2017

      Thanks dear. Parents have a storehouse of experience and wisdom, from which we can learn a lot. Mom will be thrilled to read her birthday wishes in Kannada. 😍

      Liked by 1 person

  14. Rupali
    October 1, 2017

    Excellent post Radhika. Each mom is special and gives her children best of her but you are one of the privileged. Stay blessed and good wishes to your mom.

    Liked by 3 people

  15. Author: Sadaf Siddiqi
    October 1, 2017

    Best wishes. 🙂

    Liked by 2 people

  16. faithfullyyours2017
    October 1, 2017

    Hi radhika what a lovely post on your mother…..God bless her n keep her in good health

    Liked by 2 people

  17. Megala
    October 1, 2017

    Truly an inspiring lady, my salute to her !

    Liked by 2 people

  18. delphini510
    October 1, 2017

    Radhika, that is a beautiful song to your mother. You should print it and present your beautiful Mother with it.
    miriam

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  19. Sudalai
    October 1, 2017

    Happy birthday to your mom , Radhika. A lovely tribute to a lovely mother.❤

    Liked by 2 people

  20. Thewellness.blog
    October 1, 2017

    Heartfelt article Radhika 😃.. beautifully conveyed…

    Liked by 2 people

  21. Elsa Sherry
    October 1, 2017

    Been a long time since I’ve read one of your posts Radhika. Its beautiful.

    Liked by 2 people

  22. Lovely dedication ma’am. Your mother is such an inspiring women. Need to learn lot from her. On the birthday of this beautiful woman and lovable mother I wish her happy returns of many more days and expecting her valuable blessings

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  23. Dahlia
    October 1, 2017

    This was such a wonderful post and dedication Radhika. I hope your mum reads it and do convey my best wishes to an amazing wife, mother and person 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

  24. corneliaweberphotography
    October 2, 2017

    Such a beautifully written “Happy Birthday” to your mom, you a re full of gratitude having such an amazing mom ( and dad too). May your mom be blessed with health and happiness.

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  25. Infinite Living
    October 2, 2017

    What a beautiful post and gift to your mom! I enjoyed and was very inspired. Wishes galore to your mom on her birthday!

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  26. This beautiful story could be the best gift your mother can have from you Radhika. Two of my favorite from Aunty life long lesson would be 1. courage is not not an absence of fear…overcoming of fear. 2. Life is about creating oneself.
    Happy Birthday to your Mummy and Wishing Aunty a very Healthy, Happy, and Hopeful year ahead.

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    • radhikasreflection
      October 2, 2017

      Yes, that is something I have learnt from my mom. It helps us sail through the challenges in life comfortably. Thank you so much for the lovely wishes Sunil 😇

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  27. philanthropistnimesh
    October 2, 2017

    Happy birthday to your mom,
    So cool marriage.
    Nicely described everything.
    You observed too much things from her and learned it.

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  28. Goin' the extra...aaamile
    October 3, 2017

    Happy birthday to Radhika’s mom 😊😊 Trust she had a great day. I know I’m late.. (as usual) 😉😄

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    • radhikasreflection
      October 3, 2017

      Thanks so much Savio. Wishes are always welcome 😊. She had a quiet day at home but was thrilled to receive all your wishes 🤗

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  29. Heart to soul.
    October 3, 2017

    Every act done by a woman unknowingly, becomes a standard for the next generations. I don’t ever think I’ll be able to cross or even reach the benchmark that all the moms have set. So beautifully described. 😄

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    • radhikasreflection
      October 4, 2017

      Absolutely Bhavika. They are the epitome of unconditional love and sacrifice. Thank you so much 😊

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  30. DeepikasRamblings
    October 4, 2017

    Very beautiful dedication to mom on her birthday. Well written, Radhika 👌

    Liked by 1 person

  31. Meenakshi Sethi
    October 4, 2017

    Wish Aunty A Very Happy Birthday and a great life ahead Radhika! Indeed your mom is a practical example for how a life should be lived.
    There are so many things similar here. My parents too got married in 1970. My father was in air force too and we too studied in Central School.
    Now cheers to that 🍻

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  32. priti c
    October 6, 2017

    Beautiful post and I very well understand life of a defence family 😊

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  33. boundlessblessingsblog
    October 6, 2017

    That is what an ideal mom is Radhika who serves each and every one of us without giving a second thought to herself. So beautiful u have written loved your post. A heart touching post.

    Liked by 1 person

  34. priti c
    October 6, 2017

    Beautiful post and I very well understand life of a defence family.

    Liked by 1 person

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  36. Siddhartha Dua
    October 7, 2017

    Happy Birthday Aunty.

    Liked by 2 people

  37. thewritewomanblog
    October 8, 2017

    We unconsciously pick and learn a lot from our mothers. It is these lessons which help us tread the path of difficulties cautiously, literally with her words screaming in your mind.
    A beautiful tribute to your mother, Radhika. Please wish her a very happy birthday from me too.

    Liked by 1 person

  38. Sann
    October 8, 2017

    What a lovely tribute! Your Mom would be delighted! Belated happy birthday to her❤

    Liked by 2 people

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  40. Anu sharma
    October 13, 2017

    How beautifully written! I read each and every line with so much of interest.
    I don’t know if it’s the way you wrote or it’s the story of your mother that fascinated me.
    But I loved reading this piece of work.

    Liked by 1 person

    • radhikasreflection
      October 13, 2017

      Thank you so much Anu. I don’t know what worked, but am so glad you enjoyed reading it 😇💖

      Like

  41. simpledimple
    October 14, 2017

    Well crafted and beautifully penned, Radhika. Though belated, Happy Birthday to your mum. Such a great tribute to her. ❤❤🌷

    Liked by 1 person

  42. utsavsolanki
    November 6, 2017

    Thats really wonderful piece of tribute.

    Liked by 1 person

  43. mehak22
    November 15, 2017

    very nice💖💖👌

    Liked by 2 people

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