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Rules! Who Cares??

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Last week saw us at yet another music concert in the city. While the musical melodies were a treat to the ear and soul, today I am not writing anything about that. It is the human attitude towards not following certain rules/instructions that I would like to question.

Unlike many recitals, this one started dot on time. At the beginning of the program, the host introduced the singers and also mentioned a few instructions for the audiences to follow. One among them, was to” Refrain from any video or audio recording of the concert”.

Well, the melodies rendered by the singers left the gathering enthralled. While I was totally immersed in the rendition, my eyes fell on a light a few rows ahead of me. Someone was recording the song. Turning to around, I found a few more people recording on their phones.

Now my question is, when something has been told beforehand, why do people not adhere to it? Do people follow rules only if there is a legal consequence attached to it? There were many children in the audiences. Children are very sharp observers. So what kind of a message were they sending to the young minds? Not only here, but at many places I have observed people blatantly disregard the rules.  Be it at any gathering, public places or on the roads. Why do people find it so difficult to follow rules in general, specially in India?

Have you ever been a witness to a similar situation? Why do you think compliance to a rule  is a huge challenge with people? Do share your views on this!

65 comments on “Rules! Who Cares??

  1. Yoly
    December 1, 2017

    Rules are meant to be broken… I know what you mean. People like to push the limits.

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    • radhikasreflection
      December 1, 2017

      Haha! But it’s truly frustrating to see people doing that all the time.
      Thanks Yoly for sharing your view 🙂

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      • Yoly
        December 1, 2017

        No problem 😜

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  2. B.
    December 1, 2017

    They say one needs to master them to be able to break them…

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  3. Madhusudan
    December 1, 2017

    Bahut badhiya lekh aapkaa…sach me yahaan apne man ki aajaadi hai…jo man me hai likh dete hain….padhne ko bhi bahut kuchh mil jaataa hai….jab se blogging shuru kiya mere paas bekaar samay nahi raha.

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  4. kishanlakhotia
    December 1, 2017

    Now a days due to decline in moral values in human behaviour such rule breaking incidents are often taking place.

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    • radhikasreflection
      December 1, 2017

      Yes, sadly it is true Kishan. Values at homes, schools and workplaces have eroded. I guess it is time people understood it’s importance in society. Thank you so much for stopping by!

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  5. Rupali
    December 1, 2017

    I am sure educated illiterates are found in every society just that we outnumber others 😦

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  6. I do have this doubt ma’am. Why we are not following rules if it is without punishment. We are not worrying about whether other’s are disturbed or not. For example if there’s no token number in hospital I feel no one will follow the correct order. We have to set good example to children. Thanks for sharing this post. Its even my thought too ma’am.

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    • radhikasreflection
      December 1, 2017

      Am glad you agree with me Meenakshi. It definitely is imperative on us to set good examples to our children. But sadly people don’t think so and will resort to all kinds of tricks to be ahead of you in a queue.

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  7. Mrs. Vachaal
    December 1, 2017

    Hello Radhika! aapki post achhi hai,agar dhyan se pdho toh kai baato pr sochney pr majboor krti hai.kya aap mujhe blogging ke purpose se rules ke bare mai guide kr skti hai. kyunki normally mai apne blogs ko rhythmic form mai likhti hu ya stories ya kbhi kbhi travel pr, pics mai internet se ya news papers se ya khi se bhi lekr apne blog se attach krti hu, kya ye shi hai?

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    • radhikasreflection
      December 1, 2017

      Dhanyawad aapka Mrs. Vachaal. Blogging ek aisa platform hai jaha koi bhi apni man ki baat nisankoch likh sakta hai, chahe woh lekh ho ya kavita, tasveer ho ya kalpana. Yaha zyada kayda nahi, bus dil se likhna, doosron ke blogs padna. Aapko accha lage to comment karna.

      Aasha hai, aapki shanka door hui.

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  8. boundlessblessingsblog
    December 1, 2017

    Yes things have happened at these events, Radhika when we have been told not to use these gadgets but who will listen. People have to follow the rules but things do not work out that way and it is quite frustrating for us.

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    • radhikasreflection
      December 1, 2017

      True Kamal. That’s exactly how I felt then and every other other time when I see something like this happen. There is so much music available on the net. Then why record?

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  9. DeepikasRamblings
    December 1, 2017

    Yes Radhika. I also noticed this. Last summer, my lil one had been to a theatre worksop. The final day of the workshop, the children prepared a play and parents were invited. Similar instructions were given regarding non recording as videos would be shared by the institute with the parents. Like you said, I could see some people still going ahead and recording the same. I very diligently followed their instructions and watched and enjoyed the play.
    The point is, I have still not got the video recording of the play, inspite of follow ups and mails. I need to go personally to the theatre and ask them for it.
    While, I’m still following up, I feel, those parents who broke the rules and went ahead with the recording are the lucky ones, with no hassles of follow ups.
    I feel, it’s the lack of integrity,(the power of carrying out, what one has spoken) on the part of the organisers here. Had they kept their promise, I would have been happy to adhere to the rules. Next time, I guess, I might still go ahead and record, inspite of being told not to do so.
    In india, as such due to lack of integrity of most people in general, I guess, rules are meant to be and will be broken. People don’t value others conveniences or otherwise and their own word does not hold value…

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    • radhikasreflection
      December 1, 2017

      That’s really sad Deepika. Reading about your experience makes me wonder are words like trust, integrity, values and promise mere words on paper, rarely used or followed in life? Are we moving ahead or backward with all the development?

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  10. delphini510
    December 1, 2017

    It is certainly both a discourtesy and rudeness to go against the expressed wishes of the performers and organisers. Can you imagine how disturbing it must be for those up on stage.
    I was at one show where a clever singer just stopped before he started and with a smile invited all to take photos and then please put phones and cameras away.
    He took all sorts of fun poses and for several minutes the flashes went wild.
    It worked.
    Miriam

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    • radhikasreflection
      December 1, 2017

      That was really a smart thing to do by the singer, Miriam. But in this case the people were recording the entire performance. Maybe next time organisers will have to ask the audience to deposit the phones and collect it after the program.

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  11. Sarah Al-Haddad
    December 1, 2017

    In my country people often litter because there are no legal consequences, so I understand your frustration.

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    • radhikasreflection
      December 1, 2017

      The same here also Sarah. I wonder if it is the lack of values, laziness or lack of stringent punishment that is reason for this indifferent attitude among people which stops them from following the basic rules. Thanks for commenting and sharing your thoughts!

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      • Sarah Al-Haddad
        December 1, 2017

        I think it’s has to do with the way they were raised. And you’re very welcome!

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  12. Megha's World
    December 1, 2017

    Radhika this is so true and so prevalent in our society. People don’t follow the rules and break them at the drop of a hat but still, want their kids to follow them to the Tee.
    This happens at all the events you visit these days. People are more conscious about recording the event than to just enjoy it. Even after repeated request from the organizers, they keep doing it. It’s a nuisance and it also hampers your experience of enjoying the event.

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    • radhikasreflection
      December 1, 2017

      We complain when kids don’t follow rules but don’t realise that we are breaking them all the time. The kids are just following our footsteps.
      I feel sad and frustrated too!

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  13. vidur sahdev
    December 1, 2017

    Delhi Belly, Radhika?

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  14. Divya Deepak Rao
    December 2, 2017

    Oh dear! Thank you for writing and sharing this article Radhika. I’ve been a witness many times. How simple is it to respect the artist! This saddens me.

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    • radhikasreflection
      December 2, 2017

      Yes Divya , it saddens me everytime I witness something like this. Hope people understand the importance of following rules and respect each other.

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    December 2, 2017

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    • radhikasreflection
      December 2, 2017

      It feels wonderful that you thought my blog was worthy of nomination. While I genuinely thank you for the same, it’s just that I have completely stopped doing any kind of awards now. So hope you understand Anindya 😊

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  16. (Priti C)
    December 2, 2017

    Even I don’t understand why people find it hard to follow a rule. The only thing we can do is to follow the rules on our part and ask others to do the same, rest depends on them.

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  17. arlene
    December 2, 2017

    Rules hinder them to do what the want and if they could get away with it, they are happy.

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  18. Ruchisvegkitchen
    December 2, 2017

    So true dear.. even i have experienced same many times. Another common marking is abt throwing garbage. People need to be aware.. lovely write up

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  19. Team Wellness
    December 3, 2017

    Thought Provoking… But I have found our folks comply, when they visit other countries abroad, where rules are simply followed…
    probably stuff like, “do you know who my uncle is or I am the son of so&so”, simply does not work there 🙂

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  20. Kunal Thakore
    December 5, 2017

    As Indians, we have a serious indiscipline problem – just look at the way we drive, honk, throw rubbish, ignore signs… it make me mad!

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  21. dugalzkitchen
    December 8, 2017

    Forget about recording, people don’t even show courtesy of switching off their phones or putting them on silent mode. I call these people educated illiterates.

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  22. thewritewomanblog
    December 11, 2017

    Unfortunately, it is true and I have many a time borne witness to this. Rules are meant to be broken unless it has dire consequences like a fine or something to that effect. This reminded me of a little signage that I remember to this day in the Calcutta (now Kolkatta) railways station. Just as we got off our train, I saw a board that said ‘ Cleanliness is Next to Godliness’ – please do not litter or spit. The words in this board was hardly visible between grime and red stains of paan. Considering that I was witness to this as a child, this is the first memory when I think of that trip.

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    • radhikasreflection
      December 11, 2017

      That’s exactly my point Pranitha. All my emotions of anger, irritation and frustration on seeing such a callous attitude towards following rules has drained me out. I am at a loss as to how we can address this issue.

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  23. Hemangini
    December 17, 2017

    I have been witness to such moments all my life. When something is foretold, some rule especially, it is fun to break I think. Like, don’t talk while the teacher is teaching, don’t stray from a group tour, don’t spit and pee or walk on the grass in front of Taj Mahal… The list goes on.

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    • radhikasreflection
      December 18, 2017

      Well on serious issues, it shows sheer disrespect and I don’t think it is fun Hemangini!

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      • Hemangini
        December 18, 2017

        It isn’t. What in my comment makes you feel that it is? I work in a public sector and I go through this daily. It sucks and people know it, they don’t like it but they do it anyway/anyhow. You can’t help but feel bad but what can you do about it? Our complaints don’t mean much to most. Like for example, I was travelling through train last Saturday and behind my seat a lady(almost in her late 30s) was sitting and pushing her legs in my seat, I complained to her 5 times and then I told her I will complain to the TC if she doesn’t stop. Her husband was accompnying her and he did nothing to stop her. Can you imagine the utter disgust I felt at that time? Well, this can go on and on, people don’t give much damn about how others feel or what others go through so that they can have their comfort. :/ I am sorry this comment became long, I am wallowing. Well, I mean no disrespect, I am just saying people(about 90%) don’t care.

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      • radhikasreflection
        December 18, 2017

        Well, The first reading of your comment gave me that impression. But my apologies if you didn’t mean it like that.
        Hemangini I can empathize with you. In fact at the same concert this lady sitting behind me was doing the same thing to me. Also she was chatting non stop with her mother during the show which was so disturbing. Such people are thick skinned and very insensitive about the discomfort they cause to others.
        When I see people breaking rules all the time a feeling of anger, irritation and disgust all arise within me.

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      • Hemangini
        December 20, 2017

        Exact words.. Thick skinned and insensitive. Even if you complain to them they act like you are doing them an injustice.

        Liked by 1 person

      • radhikasreflection
        December 20, 2017

        True!

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