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Sssh….Don’t Cry!!

True!

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All of us have, at different point in time let the tears flow down. As children when we were hurt, denied a toy or a chocolate ….. as adults due to helplessness, frustration or being in pain caused by the action or words of a loved one. We have all succumbed to the emotional deluge.

“People cry, not because they are weak. It’s because they have been strong for too long” Johnny Depp

Crying is a natural way of letting off the pent up turmoil within one self. It is good to cry out the disappointment, pain, stress or anger. Unfortunately as kids and even adults for that matter, crying is viewed as a sign of weakness. We are always advised to control our emotions and be brave. One is shamed for being a sissy for letting the tears run, especially the boys. They are always reminded that boys unlike girls are strong and cannot cry.

When painful emotional energies are held within oneself, trapped in the fortress of our hearts, without an outlet, it often manifests as problems in other forms.

“I was removed from my high school basketball team. I locked myself in a room and cried” Micheal Jordon.

Crying is very essential for cleansing the soul and allowing peace and happiness to enter. It is unburdening the heavy emotional load off our heart. Tears are a natural mechanism to deal with overwhelming challenges that life throws at us at times. So just let them flow. They help us relieve pain and stress, improve our resolve to deal with the situation and help us connect with ourselves better.

“Sometimes a good cry can cure what a good laugh can’t!”

So what do you think? Is crying a strength or weakness?

99 comments on “Sssh….Don’t Cry!!

  1. Miriam Hurdle
    April 22, 2019

    I’m a cry baby, Radhika, but people who know me acknowledge I’m a strong person. I’m also real. Thank you for the post.

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    • radhikasreflection
      April 22, 2019

      Happy that you are a strong woman Miriam. Crying definitely doesn’t reflect weakness. It just allows us to let go of our painful emotions. Thanks for sharing your feelings!

      Liked by 2 people

  2. boundlessblessingsblog
    April 22, 2019

    Very nicely said about crying and I loved the picture, so apt with tears just falling and yes it is so needed cause what you have curbed comes out in tears and you are completely relieved. Great post, Radhika.

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  3. Daya Bhat
    April 22, 2019

    Crying is a natural response to sorrow. Its involuntary most of the times. But beyond a certain norm it could be a symptom of an underlying cause.
    Crying in itself cannot be a weakness. It’s in fact a perfectly human reaction. Only robots can be otherwise 😊

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    • radhikasreflection
      April 22, 2019

      Haha! Yes, though it is natural outlet to pain or sorrow, sadly many treat crying as a sign of weakness. They have been conditioned so since ages.
      Glad you agree otherwise. Thanks Daya for sharing your thoughts.

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  4. Sakshi
    April 22, 2019

    Oh this spoke to me ,…….if asked to advise I would it’s best to let tears flow ….it’s like detoxification of soul ……but in all honesty at personal level I still struggle to show my tears ….. I have my secret corners to hide when the dam breaks …. It just makes me feel more in control …. .. I guess different things work for different people

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    • radhikasreflection
      April 22, 2019

      You are very right Sakshi. Even I find crying helps me unburden and clears the pain or hurt. It kind of clears the path and gives me a new resolve to move on.

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  5. Krishna
    April 22, 2019

    You said it very well dear Radhika 🙂 I feel it as a very useful cleansing tool. I cry easily and everyone call me sissy and immature, but I feel very much light after the cry when something happens and it helps me not to pile up the emotions.

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  6. Abhay
    April 22, 2019

    A friend of mine, after she finished crying as someone had persistently annoyed her told me it’s better to let my tear out than anger.

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  7. How nice. On a lighter note it also cleanses ones eyes.

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  8. That is a wonderful way , how to put it ,when we have to cry or even when we see others crying. Thank you for sharing this, Radhika.

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  9. ESP
    April 22, 2019

    But boys dont cry, cannot, will not. It is genetically imparted I guess, over ages of shaming 🙂 So now, its not the pent up sorrows that make us miserable but to find a friend crying. we are then clueless on the proper course of action

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    • radhikasreflection
      April 22, 2019

      Sadly it is so ESP, but not necessarily the right way to deal with those emotions. I fail to understand why something like crying is gender biased?
      Now with some awareness about the same, it is definitely good to let go the tears. Even the movies now show men crying. 😀

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      • ESP
        April 22, 2019

        Is there a right way to deal with emotions?
        I guess it is gender biased because men look ugly when they cry whereas women get away with anything, but I may be wrong 😐

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      • radhikasreflection
        April 22, 2019

        Each person has his/ her own way of dealing with emotions. Not sure about any one right way , ESP.
        I don’t agree that men look ugly when they cry…. the same can be said for women too.
        Guess, like you said earlier it’s just that we have been conditioned so since ages. It does take long to break that mindset in society and people.

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      • ESP
        April 22, 2019

        True true.. I was kidding, women too make weird faces when they cry, not that I made them and not that I assess beauty when people cry, at least not always 😁
        But you are right, we men might revolt against the conditioning and cry, if only out of spite.

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  10. Daya Bhat
    April 22, 2019

    I really enjoyed reading this post Radhika 😊

    Liked by 2 people

  11. Mukhamani
    April 22, 2019

    It is not a sign of weakness but I am not sure whether it is a sign of strength, but it does give a lot of relief. Once a small boy told me he did not like Federer because he cried 😊. At emotional moments tears do come to my eyes but I have never cried in public.

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    • radhikasreflection
      April 22, 2019

      Actually it is good that men too have started showing such emotions. It’s never good to lock them up within.
      Even I am a like an open book, showing my emotions easily.

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  12. Akhila
    April 22, 2019

    I would go with this quote “People cry, not because they are weak. It’s because they have been strong for too long” ..
    And I cry while being in the company of my own self only! Not with anyone else though sometimes I too wish for a shoulder to lean upon.. but radhika they say crying can lessen your stress or grief, but never I have felt so.. maybe just a cleansing act of eyes..

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    • radhikasreflection
      April 22, 2019

      I am truly surprised Akhila. While most us cry in solitude, but the act of letting those tears flow has always been therapeutic. Like me many have concurred that it makes them feel much lighter. I wonder how come you don’t feel so…🤔

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      • Akhila
        April 22, 2019

        Hmmm…. something above to my senses only could console me while I am depressed.. the tears are most of the times in my control..maybe that’s why tears couldn’t make me lighter..

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      • radhikasreflection
        April 22, 2019

        Hmm…somehow I can’t control my tears….they just flow out!

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  13. Bhavana Madbhavi
    April 22, 2019

    Awww such a lovely post ….

    Liked by 2 people

  14. Kunal Thakore
    April 22, 2019

    In a word, strength! Nice post!!

    Liked by 2 people

  15. Chiru
    April 22, 2019

    Well said Radhika…
    The quote by Johnny depp is so apt in our life…

    Liked by 2 people

  16. Indira
    April 22, 2019

    How true!!

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  17. iScriblr
    April 22, 2019

    Well said Radhika!❤️
    For me – It most certainly is not weakness, but a way to release all pent up anger, helplessness and frustration. It’s good to sometimes let go and free up exasperation, though I usually like to do it alone!

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    • radhikasreflection
      April 23, 2019

      Yes Richa, we do need some outlet to let go and detox our negative emotions. Nothing better than washing them away with our tears. Thanks so much dear !!

      Liked by 1 person

  18. krishnapriya108
    April 22, 2019

    What an interesting post,dear Radhika. Thank you! Sometimes tears show strength – the strength to be vulnerable and honest, don’t you think? It is not black and white though – our emotions are such a dance in the mist – we can never classify them in neat little boxes with pink ribbons and blue labels.

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    • radhikasreflection
      April 22, 2019

      And I find your perspective interesting too Krishnapriya. Loved how you put across your view on this. And this is exactly why l love posting questions on my blog. The thoughts and views bloggers share here is a learning in itself. Thanks for being a part and contributing in this learning 🙏

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      • krishnapriya108
        April 22, 2019

        i feel so grateful as well – to learn and connect with each other! What an awesome blessing.Thank you for being a sweet part of it for me, dear dear Radhika. 🙂

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      • radhikasreflection
        April 22, 2019

        ❤️😇

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  19. The Typewriter
    April 22, 2019

    It’s a miracle.. it clears our heavy hearts making us feel much lighter and better.. they are the unspoken verses of our eyes, their unexpressed feelings, be it happy or sad, be it shows the vulnerability of our hearts, they show that we have feelings, hence we are alive.. loved the image and your words.. thank you for such a lovely post Radhika.. 😇👌🏼👌🏼💕

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  20. I feel crying is our strength when we cry for others sorrows, many times I cried like that I can’t mention in particular.

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    • radhikasreflection
      April 23, 2019

      Yes Meenakshi. There are many times in life when we feel the pain of others and our eyes become teary.

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  21. I feel crying is our strength when we cry for others sorrows.

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  22. almeidadepaulo
    April 22, 2019

    Well said, great post Radhika!!!

    Liked by 2 people

  23. Isha Garg
    April 22, 2019

    Such a powerful and relevant post!

    Liked by 2 people

  24. Indira
    April 22, 2019

    Crying is not a weakness just an expression of emotion but trying it as a tool to win a fight is weakness.

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  25. DeepikasRamblings
    April 22, 2019

    Crying is definitely not an emotion of weakness. Though it makes one vulnerable, I feel it is required as a motion, just like laughter.
    Well written post Radhika !!

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  26. Kranti
    April 22, 2019

    Such a beautiful and thoughtful post Radhika! So true these healing tears wash away all the pain and bitterness to make our life flourish! Love it!!

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  27. Sifar
    April 23, 2019

    Crying is a natural response and shows that one has emotions and is not heartless…not necessarily related to being strong/weak! Even the most strongest people reach a stage in life when they cry….it lessens the weight of the heart and releases all the hidden pressure…sometimes a trauma can also make a person prone to crying….i guess it’s ok to cry…it’s natural and that’s why nature has given us the tear glands 😛
    To let you on in a secret…i myself am so emotional that even movie scenes can make me moist-eyed sometimes 🙈

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    • radhikasreflection
      April 23, 2019

      That is so true Sifar. But I don’t know why since young we are always told to be brave and not to cry…
      Movies have made me teary eyed many a time 😜

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  28. soiba
    April 23, 2019

    Loved it, powerful post! Crying is never a weakness, it eases the burden of the soul and makes you more stronger!

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  29. Shantanu Baruah
    April 23, 2019

    I do think crying is weakness – it is the way to relieve the pain and set the mind free from burden

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  30. Megha's World
    April 23, 2019

    I have never thought a crying as a mark of weakness..be it the tears of joy or sorrow. It is a medium for human expression. It neither makes you weak nor tarnishes the idea of masculinity. To me, it is just another method of expressing your emotion.

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  31. Infinite Living
    April 23, 2019

    Crying is often so healing and cleansing. I encourage people to find spaces that they feel safe enough to express truly and allow the emotions to flow out – so important especially for adults.

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    • radhikasreflection
      April 23, 2019

      Absolutely important for us to make way for the emotions to flow out rather than holding them back. Thanks Pragalbha 🙂

      Liked by 1 person

  32. swalia
    April 23, 2019

    Crying is a natural human reaction to express various emotions like pain, helplessness, hurt etc. In fact, crying in front of God is a sign of total surrender.

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    • radhikasreflection
      April 23, 2019

      So true Shaloo. When we just pour our heart out and the eyes let the tears flow at His feet, it is complete surrender. Thanks for bringing in this perspective ☺️

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  33. vikramhereblog
    April 24, 2019

    Definitely a strength.
    You vent out your emotions through that or else it will just get bottled up.

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  34. Yasmin Khan
    April 25, 2019

    I have a different issue with crying 😄
    I used to cry like any other person did and to be true it definitely reduced my pain and sadness.But now I am at a stage where I don’t cry at all.I feel sad and bad and my heart feels heavy and my throat chokes but tears don’t flow anymore.My eyes holds coffin to all those dead tears.And it isnt like I am strong now but it’s like I have no way to Express pain

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    • radhikasreflection
      April 25, 2019

      Yasmin first of all I believe you are a very strong woman. Do befriend tears again. They definitely help relieve the pain and hurt. Please don’t lock them up within.
      May be that’s why your writings are so deep and profound….all that anguish comes out through your words. Keep writing and stay happy. Sending lots of love and hugs to you dear 💖😘🤗

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  35. Tanusri sen
    April 26, 2019

    Yes, indeed. I feel crying gives us strength

    Liked by 2 people

  36. MsKayLee
    May 1, 2019

    I would say that I am a very emotional person and that’s probably where my kids get it from. Emotions are such a strong thing and many people don’t know what to do with all of them. I especially like the picture that you posted!

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  37. radhikasreflection
    May 2, 2019

    I agree with you Kay… emotions are very strong, only when we use them right they help us unburden ourselves. Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts!

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