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It’s time we change!

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The gusty wind flutters pages of the scattered books,

a sepia toned picture falls out of an old dusty diary.

I glance at it, and my mind travels back in timeline,

a nostalgic smile creeps up, as I recall

the gang of famous three musketeers that we were,

bosom pals, partners in crime, inseparable!

 

Seasons changed, but not our friendship,

passage of time cemented our bond…

And then she fell in love, and hell broke loose,

for he belonged to  another caste

thus shaming her family.

 

Being truly in love, they eloped to marry,

furiously tracked down by her clan,

for her alleged impropriety had to be punished.

Brutal death wiped their innocent souls

all in the name of honor…..

Shell shocked with no words to describe the ghastly act

my heart shattered into a million shards….

 

Jolted to the present by a gentle nudge,

I look up to see my mom all excited,

to show me some new bridal outfits.

Gratitude fills my heart

for, I am blessed with parents

who approve of my choice

of a life partner!

 

It is shameful that in spite of calling ourselves a progressive country, we still get to read about such brutal murders, here in India and many other countries. Honor killing is a homicide of a member of a family (usually the woman), by her own family.  It is believed that she has disgraced the family by digressing from their tradition, religion and social norms.  They are killed for supposed ‘illicit’ relationships, for marrying men of their choice, for divorcing abusive husbands, dressing in ways which are deemed inappropriate, engaging in non-heterosexual relations or renouncing a faith. They are even murdered by their kin if they are raped as they are thereby deemed to have brought shame on their family. The truth of the suspicion does not matter — merely the allegation is enough to bring dishonor on the family and therefore justifies the slaying.

 

What do you see # 32

V’J’s weekly challenge  #98 : No words

Eugi’s weekly prompt: gratitude

87 comments on “It’s time we change!

  1. Deborah
    June 2, 2020

    Very powerful piece! ❤

    Liked by 4 people

  2. Haroon Mirza
    June 2, 2020

    Wonderful

    Liked by 3 people

  3. judeitakali
    June 2, 2020

    Oh my, i love the awareness this piece brings,

    Liked by 3 people

  4. Era
    June 2, 2020

    You have portrayed all feelings so beautifully 💙

    Liked by 2 people

  5. paeansunplugged
    June 2, 2020

    It started on an easy-breezy note and then took a sudden turn to convey such a powerful message, Radhika! I wonder when things will change!
    Beautifully expressed. ❤️

    Liked by 5 people

  6. sunipukadiyil
    June 2, 2020

    Powerful thought !! 💕

    Liked by 2 people

  7. Indira
    June 2, 2020

    What a shame…. and then…what a relief! Both emotions are brought in here, Radhika!

    Liked by 2 people

  8. Anusha
    June 2, 2020

    Such a moving piece 💙

    Liked by 2 people

  9. Shantanu Baruah
    June 2, 2020

    wow this powerful – hope this is thing of the past

    Liked by 2 people

  10. almeidadepaulo
    June 2, 2020

    So beautifully expressed Radhika, as always!!!

    Liked by 2 people

  11. Sadje
    June 2, 2020

    I like your take on the prompt. It’s time to address the serious issues too. Thanks for joining in the challenge

    Liked by 3 people

    • radhikasreflection
      June 2, 2020

      I know it was quite a different take on the prompt, but happy you liked it Sadje. Was reading about the George Floyd incident and this just followed as in India it is more on casteism and religion.

      Liked by 1 person

  12. V.J. Knutson
    June 2, 2020

    Hard to understand from our western perspective, and yet, I have lost friends who have married into religions that forbid contact with outsiders. All seems so counter the concept of love.

    Liked by 2 people

  13. Nanchi.blog
    June 2, 2020

    Heart wrenching lines. Beautifully expressed, Radhika!

    Liked by 3 people

  14. Nathi
    June 2, 2020

    Powerfully written! And every time I come across such news, it always breaks my heart💔

    Liked by 3 people

  15. Pallavi
    June 2, 2020

    Horrible reality of some parts of the world. How can there ever be honor in killing, their souls ask.

    Liked by 2 people

    • radhikasreflection
      June 3, 2020

      I know Pallavi. What are they out to prove? Does this slaying make right the so called tradition violated? Such inhuman acts make my blood boil.

      Liked by 1 person

  16. boundlessblessingsblog
    June 2, 2020

    Nostalgic moments with friends, Radhika and yes when our own family members do not approve of the marriage, the poor loving couple are killed mercilessly by them and we in India are yet very behind where caste, race and religion is concerned. Why and for what are we doing all this craziness and raping our women left right and centre and who is bothered. All the blame is kept on the poor girl and it is happening with widows in the family too. We as humans at times are so cruel and mean. God only knows when we will come out of our selfishness and realize our Oneness.

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    • radhikasreflection
      June 3, 2020

      I agree Kamal. The obsession some sects of people have about following the so called rules and traditions of the family is unimaginable. They stoop to such low levels as to kill their own blood? How can such an act be justified?

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      • boundlessblessingsblog
        June 3, 2020

        Yes Radhika and this is going on from ages. Unless we come out of this religious nonsense this will go on and on.

        Liked by 1 person

  17. -Eugenia
    June 2, 2020

    It’s heartbreaking that this goes on. Your beautifully expressed piece relays an important message, Radhika. Thank you for participating.

    Liked by 2 people

    • radhikasreflection
      June 3, 2020

      Thank you Eugenia. It is so appalling to see this mindset in some people for whom following some tradition is more important than the life of a loved one, that they resort to such a heinous act.

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  18. Rupali
    June 2, 2020

    Sad.

    Liked by 2 people

  19. Your words made me shiver in both ways.

    Liked by 2 people

  20. Narendra Nayak
    June 3, 2020

    This is one of your best writings, R! Masterpiece! It is very powerful and hits hard – and rightly so. This issue has been in existence ever since we bifurcated humanity on the lines of caste and is the bane of our social fabric. Sadly, it has made deep inroads in our society, even well-read urbanites bowing before it – leave aside the dogma of the rural populace; and it does not look amenable to be erased in the near term.

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    • radhikasreflection
      June 3, 2020

      Thank you N for your kind appreciation.🙏
      Well, In today’s times, I have come across a very educated person ,who studied in one of the most premier institute of the country, looking down upon his peer, only because he is from a lower caste. If people from the so called elite of the society still carry this mindset, then what can one say about the rural folks. Man should learn to respect and follow the religion of humanity and brotherhood….but I guess India only a miracle will change that belief🙁

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  21. Deeksha Pathak
    June 3, 2020

    Brutal truth of many communities in India. Are we really literate?

    Liked by 2 people

  22. extinct0703
    June 3, 2020

    Speechless, brilliant work Radhika 👌

    Liked by 2 people

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  24. Such powerful words..Radhika👍
    So heart wrenching but gives some relief at the end….
    It’s such a shame that these horrible things are still prevalent in our society…

    Liked by 2 people

  25. earthskyair
    June 3, 2020

    Beautiful and difficult and important. 💖

    Liked by 2 people

  26. Light of Life
    June 3, 2020

    Beautiful and a strong message. Hope a section of society embracing such orthodox and adamant culture understands that Love has no boundaries.

    Liked by 2 people

  27. I respect you so much for your kindness and strength. Your knowledge with your strength shows the true face of the society. You are treasure to the society. I pray the almighty for your words to reach places 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

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  28. Strong message shared Radhika

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  29. Lovely as always Radhika! A very strong message and a bitter truth which a lot of people will find hard to digest 🙂

    P.S. I love the picture!! It’s Stunning!!

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  30. By the way Radhika, I have tagged you in my latest post https://sharewhatyoufeel.com/2020/06/04/10-of-my-favourite-feelings/ 🙂

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  31. daisybala
    June 3, 2020

    It’s amazing how you’ve wrapped a sensitive topic and social stigma around your poetry!! Your writing is powerful ❤️

    Liked by 2 people

  32. Rageshree
    June 4, 2020

    This is a really heartbreaking social concern. It is devastating that people can go to the extent of killing their loved ones just for the so called ‘honour’ for whatever reason that might be. Beautifully written!:)

    Liked by 2 people

  33. Krishna
    June 4, 2020

    Strong words..May peace prevail in the hearts of all

    Liked by 2 people

  34. Kritika
    June 4, 2020

    Hope is alive. 🙂
    Wonderfully expressed.

    Liked by 2 people

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  37. michnavs
    June 8, 2020

    This is a very powerful piece though i didnt thought it to be at first..💞💞

    Liked by 1 person

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  39. gulfcoastpoet@gmail.com
    June 28, 2020

    Radhika, your poem is poignantly beautiful and tragic. I hope it helps to create positive change.

    It seems that many societies have old brutalities that continue to raise their ugly heads! In the United States, we have had the rise of White Supremacists and Neonazis, the burning of Black churches, attacks on mosques, racial profiling by police, and most recently, it appears that several lynchings have occurred.

    Many Americans are shamed by the current attempts to dismantle democracy in our country. We hope there are better days ahead.

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