“The greatest mistake we make is living in the constant fear that we make one “ John. C. Maxwell
They say failure is the stepping stone to success….yet we are afraid to fail, aren’t we? We are hopeful that all our endeavors culminate in success. Many skip an opportunity if they are unsure of a positive outcome.
If we learn from our mistakes, then why are we always so wary not to make one?
“Don’t be afraid to make mistakes, be afraid of not learning from them”.
Looking back, I believe that all through our childhood we were conditioned to do everything right. Failure was looked down upon at school and among friends. People would be chided or belittled for going wrong, not to mention the tirade that followed, “It’s your fault”, “You can never get anything right”, “I told you so”….the list of such degrading comments never ceased.
Acceptance for failure is never total. I guess that is primarily the reason we still shun any form of failure!
“People often avoid making decisions out of the fear of making a mistake. Actually the failure to make decisions is one of life’s biggest mistakes”. Noah Winberg
Would love to know your opinion on this.
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Well said Radhika, I can relate this. Your write up is like a booster dose, Thanks for this 😊👌👍
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So glad to hear that Pooja. Thanks 😊
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Pleasure is mine 😊
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I agree. To a great extent, I feel in the moulding of a child, the fear of failure, is built in by the bringing up of a child. The fear of the caregiver, is transferred on to the child. The child grows up with it and it becomes his/her inherent nature.
The pattern needs to be broken, to actually think of failure as a stepping stone to success.
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Yes Deepika. Well analysed. The over protective nature of parents very often do not allow the child to falter there by hindering his actual growth in terms of emerging stronger from set-backs.
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Well said 👍👍
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Thanks Saania ☺️
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My pleasure
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I totally agree with your profound words of truth on failure, Radhika. Failure are stepping stones to success, if we do not fail how will we learn to bravely take baby steps and succeed in life. Worry and fear are the main obstacles of failure. Too good post.
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Thank you Kamal. Along with worry and fear, the thought of what will people say if I don’t succeed often holds them back from venturing into something new.
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True and agree totally with your words, Radhika 😊😊😊😊😊 welcome dear.
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That’s true, we learn from our mistakes.
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Thank you Arlene!
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That is a very well written article, Radhika.
Well…I have never given a thought to it in that manner – a “what if” thought of failure has never even been considered when starting out on anything. Yes, I morbidly fear losing (ever since childhood), and that has probably driven me to play to win…or it may even be my overt optimism that shuns all negative thoughts. It’s very complex.
But yes, failure, whenever it has come – and it has – has been a lesson learnt well and the reasons searched for and duly noted as not to be repeated. 🙂
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So very glad to read your perspective on this Narendra. I must say that you’ve got the right approach to life and learning. Once you overcome the apprehension of “what if,” I guess that converts to ” I will emerge stronger” from each obstacle I face. Keep up the spirit 👍
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🙏🏻🙂
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Fear of failure is essentially a fear of shame. We feel ashamed in front of others that we couldn’t achieve something as expected…it even prevents us from getting motivated.
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Yes another side to what holds us back. Thanks Indira for sharing your point!
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Well said Radhika!👌👌
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Thank you Richa
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Well written as always Radhika, thanks for sharing, have a nice weekend!!!
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Thank you Paulo. Hope you are enjoying your weekend!
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So true. Thomas Edison said ” I have not failed, I have just found 10000 ways that won’t work”. .. …..it’s all about perception
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I agree, failure is a heart-breaking, sometimes too depressing but also, it is only a step, a small obstacle on the way towards success. It all depends on how we perceive failure.
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Yes Moushumi. Some become better with failure while some end up bitter.
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Well written ….Loved it.
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Thank you Bhavana!
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Totally agree with Noah’s statement. Not making decisions keeps us from potentially gaining what we actually want.
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Agree with your thoughts Susi. Thanks for sharing it.
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I appreciate you putting it out here for us, Radhika! 🙂 Have a wonderful day!
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So true and profound !!
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Thanks Jyo!
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Absolutely golden words – failure forms the pillars of our success
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Thanks Shantanu.
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My pleasure
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This is very really unique helpful information. keep it up. Thank you so much!
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Glad you think so. Thanks Martina!
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I totally agree with you on this😊👏👏👏
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🙏🙂
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So true! I completely agree with you.
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When we are young there is no fear to fail or succeed . But as brain develops, we are conscious and this fear of consciousness makes us weak.
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Yes quite right. I also feel that adults instill that fear to a great extent in children.
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Interestingly, fear of failure seems to cut across cultures. I guess learning to embrace failure and learning from it should start from a young adage.
I wrote a post on one leadership failure, which took some time for me to open up about it. Do read if you are interested.
https://learningcontinuously.wordpress.com/2019/10/12/how-i-failed/
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Impressed by your blog🤩
People think that failure is inferior or imperfect and thay give up. But what they don’t think is besides that, it have many benefits us in many positive ways.
I also wrote about it in my blog, so lemme know your thoughts on that.
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