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The fear of failure!

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“The greatest mistake we make is living in the constant fear that we make one “ John. C. Maxwell

They say failure is the stepping stone to success….yet we are afraid to fail, aren’t we? We are hopeful that all our endeavors culminate in success. Many skip an opportunity if they are unsure of a positive outcome.

If we learn from our mistakes, then why are we always so wary not to make one?

“Don’t be afraid to make mistakes, be afraid of not learning from them”.

Looking back, I believe that all through our childhood we were conditioned to do everything right. Failure was looked down upon at school and among friends. People would be chided or belittled for going wrong, not to mention the tirade that followed, “It’s your fault”, “You can never get anything right”, “I told you so”….the list of such degrading comments never ceased.

Acceptance for failure is never total. I guess that is primarily the reason we still shun any form of failure!

“People often avoid making decisions out of the fear of making a mistake. Actually the failure to make decisions is one of life’s biggest mistakes”. Noah Winberg

Would love to know your opinion on this.

44 comments on “The fear of failure!

  1. Pooja
    September 6, 2019

    Well said Radhika, I can relate this. Your write up is like a booster dose, Thanks for this 😊👌👍

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  2. DeepikasRamblings
    September 6, 2019

    I agree. To a great extent, I feel in the moulding of a child, the fear of failure, is built in by the bringing up of a child. The fear of the caregiver, is transferred on to the child. The child grows up with it and it becomes his/her inherent nature.
    The pattern needs to be broken, to actually think of failure as a stepping stone to success.

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    • radhikasreflection
      September 8, 2019

      Yes Deepika. Well analysed. The over protective nature of parents very often do not allow the child to falter there by hindering his actual growth in terms of emerging stronger from set-backs.

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  3. Saania2806
    September 6, 2019

    Well said 👍👍

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  4. boundlessblessingsblog
    September 6, 2019

    I totally agree with your profound words of truth on failure, Radhika. Failure are stepping stones to success, if we do not fail how will we learn to bravely take baby steps and succeed in life. Worry and fear are the main obstacles of failure. Too good post.

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    • radhikasreflection
      September 8, 2019

      Thank you Kamal. Along with worry and fear, the thought of what will people say if I don’t succeed often holds them back from venturing into something new.

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  5. arlene
    September 6, 2019

    That’s true, we learn from our mistakes.

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  6. Narendra Nayak
    September 6, 2019

    That is a very well written article, Radhika.
    Well…I have never given a thought to it in that manner – a “what if” thought of failure has never even been considered when starting out on anything. Yes, I morbidly fear losing (ever since childhood), and that has probably driven me to play to win…or it may even be my overt optimism that shuns all negative thoughts. It’s very complex.
    But yes, failure, whenever it has come – and it has – has been a lesson learnt well and the reasons searched for and duly noted as not to be repeated. 🙂

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    • radhikasreflection
      September 8, 2019

      So very glad to read your perspective on this Narendra. I must say that you’ve got the right approach to life and learning. Once you overcome the apprehension of “what if,” I guess that converts to ” I will emerge stronger” from each obstacle I face. Keep up the spirit 👍

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  7. Indira
    September 6, 2019

    Fear of failure is essentially a fear of shame. We feel ashamed in front of others that we couldn’t achieve something as expected…it even prevents us from getting motivated.

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  8. iScriblr
    September 7, 2019

    Well said Radhika!👌👌

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  9. almeidadepaulo
    September 7, 2019

    Well written as always Radhika, thanks for sharing, have a nice weekend!!!

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  10. Sakshi
    September 7, 2019

    So true. Thomas Edison said ” I have not failed, I have just found 10000 ways that won’t work”. .. …..it’s all about perception

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  11. Moushmi Radhanpara
    September 7, 2019

    I agree, failure is a heart-breaking, sometimes too depressing but also, it is only a step, a small obstacle on the way towards success. It all depends on how we perceive failure.

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  12. Bhavana Madbhavi
    September 7, 2019

    Well written ….Loved it.

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  13. Susi Bocks
    September 8, 2019

    Totally agree with Noah’s statement. Not making decisions keeps us from potentially gaining what we actually want.

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  14. Jyo
    September 8, 2019

    So true and profound !!

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  15. Shantanu Baruah
    September 8, 2019

    Absolutely golden words – failure forms the pillars of our success

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  16. Martina Roy
    September 9, 2019

    This is very really unique helpful information. keep it up. Thank you so much!

    Liked by 1 person

  17. Yasmin Khan
    September 9, 2019

    I totally agree with you on this😊👏👏👏

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  18. Megala
    September 11, 2019

    So true! I completely agree with you.

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  19. Deeksha Pathak
    September 17, 2019

    When we are young there is no fear to fail or succeed . But as brain develops, we are conscious and this fear of consciousness makes us weak.

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  20. Yap Wai Meng
    October 15, 2019

    Interestingly, fear of failure seems to cut across cultures. I guess learning to embrace failure and learning from it should start from a young adage.

    I wrote a post on one leadership failure, which took some time for me to open up about it. Do read if you are interested.
    https://learningcontinuously.wordpress.com/2019/10/12/how-i-failed/

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