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Why should we always win?

Last week my 12 year old daughter and I sat down to play a game of scrabble. As the game progressed, she got a few very high scoring letters, with which she made a word. In spite of that she did not get high points for that word, as she didn’t use it on a “double word/ triple word/letter”.  Using it in such a place would have increased her points three fold. I told her she could make some other word for now and try to make this word in her next turn.

She did not like my suggestion and was fine with her choice. Her question that followed surpriimages (3)sed me!! She asked me “Amma, why is it always so important to win all the time? Can’t we just play the game to enjoy and learn a few new words in the process? I want to enjoy my game. I don’t want to play to win “.

I really didn’t know how to react. But her question left me thinking…….

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27 comments on “Why should we always win?

  1. Karthik
    May 14, 2016

    Well, the only thing that ever changes with time is time….

    In our younger days… society used to always preach “Why we should win”

    Today’s generation perhaps has more liberty… more options… more freedom…. in questioning “Why should we Win”

    And all change is for the good…

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  2. Radhika
    May 15, 2016

    Change is always good………what is encouraging is the shift in the mindset of the younger generation of the thoughts, attitudes or ideas from the ones that we were conditioned to and grew up with !

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  3. Subhash
    June 28, 2016

    I also got scrabble for my 7 year old and we are loving it, brings back my days. Just enjoy and in the process they learn. Also buy short stories and read it to them daily.

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    • radhikasreflection
      June 28, 2016

      Thanks Subhash….. early reading habits sets the foundation. Both my kids are voracious readers now 🙂

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      • Subhash
        June 28, 2016

        That’s so nice to hear, I got her addicted to O Henry and Tolstoy. I have to sit with her though.

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      • radhikasreflection
        June 28, 2016

        Great….. she will thank you for that.

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  4. myheartbeats4ublog
    July 28, 2016

    hey, that was a beautiful thought from a 12 year old! winning and losing are perceptions, but enjoying what one does is most important!

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  6. mukhamani
    November 14, 2017

    We learn so much from children, I wonder when people leave behind playing for fun ? Fortunately everyone do not do that 😊

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    • radhikasreflection
      November 14, 2017

      Somewhere in the process of growing up everything becomes competitive. We forget just playing for fun!! Thank you Lakshmi for stopping by!

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  7. totallytales
    November 14, 2017

    True Radhika! Be it games, or studies, knowingly or unknowingly winning becomes the important aspect…Gone are our days, when games was fun and so was school…

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  8. thewritewomanblog
    November 14, 2017

    Life has become a competition, whether it is studies, games or anything else. Mothers compete with other mothers, children with other children and so on and so forth. But when it is a competition do we still enjoy the game as much as when it is not?
    She had a nugget of wisdom in her thoughts, Radhika.

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    • radhikasreflection
      November 15, 2017

      Enjoying a game, or a class is long forgotten. Today everything is competition driven.
      At times I feel she has more clarity of thoughts then me!

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  9. Goin' the extra...aaamile
    November 15, 2017

    Now that’s one smart kid, just like her mom…

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    • radhikasreflection
      November 16, 2017

      Thanks so much Savio. She has a lot of clarity of thought while I am still a confused head 😝

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  10. rightstepconsultingblog
    November 17, 2017

    Really that is important that we,adults should think like this…we are so busy in running behind a victory that we don’t realize what all we are missing…….this article made me think of what all i have done and what all i am doing…Thank you

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    • radhikasreflection
      November 17, 2017

      I was also in the same boat till my daughter asked me the question. It has really made me think. Glad you could relate to it too. Thank you so much!

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  11. Meenakshi Sethi
    November 18, 2017

    So much wisdom in such a small kid, Amazing. Yes we need to learn from their innovative minds breaking all limitations. Good bless her

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  12. Meenakshi Sethi
    November 18, 2017

    I learn so much from my students

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